SUNDAY talks with survivors. It takes courage to speak out. Our contact details for support are: 0800 448 484 referral@betterblokes.org.nz www.facebook.com/betterblokesnz where you can connect via Messenger and also an option for WhatsApp They [police] weren’t sure what they would uncover, but within just a few years they’d identified 139Continue Reading

Another step of Te Aorerekura – the National Strategy and Action Plan to Eliminate Family Violence and Sexual Violence – and a hope for better meeting the needs of survivors of violence. They aim to build understanding and to improve the capability of government and non-government organisations and workforces toContinue Reading

An opinion piece from a male sexual abuse survivor The victim faces a total power imbalance. The victim is traumatised from the abuse, let alone the prospect of facing their abuser. https://www.stuff.co.nz/opinion/300612426/another-school-abuse-case-shows-the-failings-of-our-education-leadersContinue Reading

This study found differences in perceptions based on gender. Existing research . . . suggests that there is a bias towards leniency in judicial systems for female sexual offenders (FSOs) in comparison to male sexual offenders (MSOs). https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/08862605221085034Continue Reading

Procrastination… and perfectionism and the inner critic that can come with it… all common ways of coping with feelings that originate from past abuse.A different way forward is to talk with another man with similar experiences. Procrastination is typically a dysfunctional way of coping with unwanted emotions and feelings ofContinue Reading

Brendan Fraser Says HFPA Ex-President Sexually Assaulted Him The actor said that the incident made him reclusive and he retreated from public life. https://variety.com/2018/film/news/brendan-fraser-hfpa-ex-president-sexually-assaulted-him-1202707850/ Image: “Mr. Fraser is here!” by bfurlong is licensed under CC BY-SA 2.0Continue Reading

The Tragic Real-Life Story Of Carlos Santana Forgiving his abuser was key to his own personal journey. https://www.grunge.com/191143/the-tragic-real-life-story-of-carlos-santana/ Image: “Carlos Santana am 21. Januar 2000, in München, Muffat-Halle” by Jaud is licensed under CC BY-SA 3.0, via Wikimedia CommonsContinue Reading

Chester Bennington’s life may help male sex abuse victims speak up Chester Bennington had openly said he was a survivor of childhood sexual abuse that haunted him https://edition.cnn.com/2017/07/22/opinions/chester-bennington-sex-abuse-opinion-cook/index.html Image: “Chidey” by Chester Bennington Phoenix is licensed under CC BY-SA 4.0, via Wikimedia CommonsContinue Reading