We don’t respect showing empathy toward morally questionable individuals
https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2020/10/201027133717.htm But do we always want people to show empathy? Not so, said researchers from the University of California, Davis. A recently published paper suggests that although empathy is often portrayed as a virtue, people who express empathy are not necessarily viewed favorably. “Empathy has become a sort of ‘catch-all’ for desirable personal qualities,” said…
Too Anxious to get Better
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/psychiatry-and-sleep/202010/too-anxious-get-better-part-1 I especially feel for anxious people because they are set up to suffer quietly inside while on the surface they look fine to everyone else and perform at a very high level. Their success just comes at an extremely high cost and alcohol sometimes ends up being the opiate of the anxious. They have nothing left when they…
Seeds of hope
Seeds of “Hope” 1. You R not alone 2. It was not yr fault 3. Healing is Possible 4. It is never too late pic.twitter.com/3fzjB78bEO — MaleSurvivor (@MaleSurvivorORG) October 19, 2020
10 per cent of all older people will be affected by abuse
https://www.odt.co.nz/star-news/star-christchurch/canterbury%E2%80%99s-high-elder-abuse-stats-%E2%80%98tip-iceberg%E2%80%99 Age Concern Canterbury received 599 referrals in 2019 and has observed a significant jump in reports since 2011, which saw about 50 referrals. More than 80 per cent of cases involve psychological abuse, which occurs alongside other forms of abuse. Fifty per cent of all abuse the organisation sees is financial – and nearly…
The Psychology of Corruption
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/moral-landscapes/202010/the-psychology-corruption-kleptocracy-vs-democracy She starts with the King Midas myth as an illustration of the mindset driving corruption. It is a story told by many storytellers. As a reward for a good deed, King Midas was given one wish by the god Dionysius. Midas’ wish was that everything he touched would turn to gold. At first, he…
Are We Having a Conversation or Seeking Validation?
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/inviting-monkey-tea/202010/are-we-having-conversation-or-seeking-validation Often, we need something from our listener that we’re not even aware of needing. We’re trying to get the other person to make us feel heard, to give us the feeling that our experience is understood, that we are understood. We award the other person with the power to fulfill or deny us this…
Sexual abuse – preserving the family narrative
A single family narrative is essential to the foundation of keeping unhealthy family legacies alive. Their survival depends on portraying the same, cohesive, story to prevent exposure, repercussions, and responsibility. Healthy family systems can deal with contrasting opinions, hurt feelings, and disagreements. Family systems riddled with dysfunction and abuse cannot. Parents who enforce dysfunctional or…
4 tips for talking to people you disagree with
1. Don’t assume bad intent. Assuming ill motives almost instantly cuts us off from truly understanding why someone does and believes as they do. We forget they’re a human being with a lifetime of experience that shaped their mind, we get stuck on that first wave of anger, and the conversation has a very hard…
Death anxiety is rich with clues to one’s unrest
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/counseling-keys/202010/confronting-death-anxiety Death anxiety can be described as free-floating anxiety that one feels about dying yet is often repressed and experienced in other ways. For instance, some people may try to assert control and unconsciously advance their power and control in the world while others obsessively fight the signs of aging and still others perpetually run…