Saturday, March 25, 2017
Supporting Men > sexual abuse

They didn’t want to cause their son further distress

http://www.nzherald.co.nz/world/news/article.cfm?c_id=2&objectid=11819266 Hinch's mother began to lecture her son about the importance of honouring your word, until his brother Des interjected to say the man had "done something to Derryn." "Then all hell broke loose," he recalled, saying his parents angrily chased his molester out of the home. Years later, he asked his parents

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The Forgiveness Myth Refuses to Go Away

http://www.sbs.com.au/topics/life/culture/article/2017/03/13/comment-forgiveness-not-justice-and-trauma-survivors-dont-need-forgive-heal There is no “right” way for people to recover from trauma. What works for some survivors may be disastrous for others, and the last thing they need is outsiders judging their behaviour as sufficiently victim-worthy. This is what made me initially reticent to make any public comments about the recent media

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Wellington Boys Try Trump Defense: Only Locker Room Talk

http://www.radionz.co.nz/news/national/326207/wgtn-school-boys-suspended-for-'filming-women-teachers' Gerard Tully, the rector of St Patrick's College at Silverstream, confirmed that a "small number" of year nine students had been suspended after a "most distressing incident of sexual harassment." Mr Tully would not give further details of what happened, but said his absolute priority was for the safety, support and

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Palmerston North seminar on sexual violence

http://www.stuff.co.nz/national/89840649/palmerston-north-community-gather-for-seminar-on-sexual-violence Clearwater told the audience how being abused fuelled his rage as a young man. As a teenager Clearwater was expelled from his school in Christchurch after beating up a teacher and school prefect. He was later arrested for assaulting a police officer. He lost his job at a meat works after hitting

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University of Canberra researcher writing about sons sexually abused by mother

http://www.nzherald.co.nz/world/news/article.cfm?c_id=2&objectid=11782808 Since she met him, Lucetta had witnessed Marcus struggling to come to terms with what happened to him in childhood. "He was not only sexually abused by his mother from a very young age but when he became older and was able to physically prevent her from abusing him, she engaged

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Feeling unsafe in her home, isolated her from her family, isolated from friends

http://www.nzherald.co.nz/nz/news/article.cfm?c_id=1&objectid=11765291 During the trial the court heard from Velas about years of violent and sexual abuse at the hands of her stepfather. While he was only convicted on the three charges, Judge Stan Thorburn acknowledged Velas' claim that there was more abuse in her life. Court documents provided to the Herald reveal that

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Tattoos Help Sexual Assault Survivors Reclaim Their Bodies

https://broadly.vice.com/en_us/article/how-tattoos-help-sexual-assault-survivors-reclaim-their-bodies When Marti was 18 years old, she was raped by multiple men at a frat party. She was a virgin. "It happened in the beginning of my first semester freshman year," she recalls. "I was ashamed; I turned to drugs and alcohol because I didn't know how else to cope

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Disrespecting every man or woman who has been raped

https://www.bustle.com/articles/194208-how-it-feels-for-a-victim-of-sexual-assault-to-watch-donald-trump-get-elected?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=partnerships&utm_campaign=mic I did not ever imagine it coming up because the person who has become our president-elect has been recorded making crude, cavalier comments about groping and assaulting women on tape. And yet here we are. Of all the things I'm concerned about regarding a Trump presidency, his documented attitudes about assault

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