Monday, January 21, 2019
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When you should speak up, and when you should stand up.

https://www.stuff.co.nz/life-style/well-good/inspire-me/109926000/a-mans-guide-to-not-being-part-of-the-metoo-problem I could see it was being driven by another middle-aged guy, a beard and sunnies masking his face - yeah, we could have been brothers. With the way now safe, I accelerated, slowly. I won't pretend on some level I wasn't fuming - what if he hadn't stopped and I hadn't

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The Myth of Toxic Maculinity

https://www.fatherly.com/health-science/toxic-masculinity-fake-male-insecurity/ “Toxic masculinity is more of a sign of lack of self-worth and self-respect,” psychotherapist Hanalei Vierra, who’s counseled men for over three decades, told Fatherly. “Underneath all that instability and anger is a wounded little boy who was never taught to value his authentic and genuine experience of himself.” “It matters less what

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Fix family violence by facing up to male sexual trauma

https://www.stuff.co.nz/stuff-nation/109792758/violence-against-women-men-arent-the-problem-or-the-solution?fbclid=IwAR1VAOtgsY4DbaQf2MhrV5Ek0v9wXGPma6DiRS96gKxZwk2ZiudtZ2-kV8g Men who are violent towards women tend to hate themselves. They hate that they feel vulnerable, and most of all, they hate feeling ashamed. Men's feelings of vulnerability and shame, in conjunction with feelings of strength and protection, when not adequately integrated (i.e. the idea that one can be both vulnerable and strong at

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CDC: men and women equally experience nonconsensual sex

https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/sexual-victimization-by-women-is-more-common-than-previously-known/ The results were surprising. For example, the CDC’s nationally representative data revealed that over one year, men and women were equally likely to experience nonconsensual sex, and most male victims reported female perpetrators. Over their lifetime, 79 percent of men who were “made to penetrate” someone else (a form of rape, in

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Emotional support duck

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/animalia/wp/2016/10/20/daniel-the-emotional-support-duck-takes-his-first-plane-ride-soars-in-popularity/ The duck’s human introduced him to their fellow, now-amused passengers: This was Daniel Turducken Stinkerbutt, or Daniel for short. He is a 4 1/2-year-old Indian Runner duck and is her emotional support animal, she explained. “I heard a few maybe semi-critical mutterings, like, ‘Now I’ve seen everything,’ ” Essig told The

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Patients receiving peer counseling 34 percent less likely repeat admission

https://www.reuters.com/article/us-health-mental-crisis-peers/peer-support-tied-to-fewer-repeat-mental-health-hospitalizations-idUSKCN1M825V Adults who have been hospitalized for psychiatric problems may be less likely to be readmitted when they get support from other patients who went through similar experiences, a UK study suggests. Researchers followed 441 patients for one year after they were discharged from the hospital. All of them received personal recovery

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Online groomers do not always masquerade as children or adolescents in cyberspace

https://theconversation.com/how-paedophiles-speak-to-children-online-66243?utm_source=Twitter&utm_medium=Social&utm_campaign=Echobox#link_time=1480330493 Furthermore, online groomers do not always masquerade as children or adolescents in cyberspace. In fact, none of the conversations included in our database involved a sexual predator pretending to be a youngster. Some online groomers misrepresented their true age by taking around four or five years from their real age

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