Dealing with Passive Aggressive People
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/how-be-yourself/202010/5-ways-deal-passive-aggressive-people
Passive aggression, by definition, is the fine art of being angry without seeming angry.
It’s an inseparable coffee-and-cream swirl of two ingredients: anger and avoidance.
The first, anger—or its cousins annoyance, frustration, and irritation—always bubbles beneath the surface. But trying to suppress anger is like trying to keep a lid on a pot of boiling water. Eventually, a steam vent will spew out.
In addition to semi-hidden hostility, the second ingredient in passive aggression is avoidance. It’s a way to skirt conflict, not feel genuine anger, and avoid having to be direct in a situation where one feels incapable—three wins that powerfully reinforce a habit of passive aggression.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/how-be-yourself/202010/5-ways-deal-passive-aggressive-people