Negotiating boundaries – counselling helps you learn to negotiate your boundaries with people so that you can look after your own interests and stand up for yourself, while letting other people know where they stand. Making your expectations of others clear and direct; as well as disentangling from co-dependent relationships without getting caught up in other people’s dramas or intense emotions.
Assertive communication – we may learn how to communicate more effectively with people without falling into patterns of aggression or passivity. By asserting your self-interest without exploiting, harming or offending others and using the principle: “Me first; but with you-in-mind” (assertive) rather than “Me first; at your expense” (aggressive), or “You first; at my expense” (passive), or “You first; I’ll get you later” (passive-aggressive).
Emotional regulation – counselling can help us slow-down and restore a sense of balance to our emotional states. It can help us to learn how to relax and use sensorimotor activities to take care of our bodies and reduce the intensity of our anxiety. As well as learning mirroring exercises that give us the capacity to develop a better self-image and use this to restore our sense of confidence, self-esteem and acceptance.