Grief is a natural response to a loss, which may include a traumatic loss such as purging a trauma bond from a narcissistic relationship that ended, or grieving the loss of personal safety from surviving an assault. Grief includes cognitive, emotional, psychological, behavioral and existential reactions which may include both immediate and delayed responses.
According to Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, “the five stages — denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance are a part of the framework that makes up our learning to live with the one we lost.” Grief can affect everyone differently, there is no timeframe on “how long” the grieving process will last, and it is very common to move through the stages several times until finally reaching acceptance. A misnomer is that with acceptance should come peace, or re-experiencing your life how it was before the grieving process began, which is not always true. Instead, reaching acceptance is more of a coming to terms with the reality of the loss, and in finding healthy ways of coping with the pain.
It is important to give yourself time to get back into the groove of things once you’re back at work and not to compare your productivity today to where you were productivity-wise before your grieving began. Grieving is a process and it can be slow and painful for many. Some things to consider for helping you adapt back into your job may include: