Brown says perfectionism is, “the belief that if we live perfectly, look perfectly and act perfectly, we can avoid the pain of blame, judgment and shame.”
Perfectionism isn’t about growth, improvement, or personal achievement, it’s about fear and avoidance. Therefore, what you should really be focused on is realizing excellence, the best version of yourself despite your flaws. This perspective is healthy and inclusive and leads to real personal growth as opposed to a flawed perfectionism.
1. Don’t bottle up your emotions, become self-aware
2. Vulnerability takes courage
3. Show up, face fear, and move forward
4. Seek excellence, not perfection
5. Dare to be yourself