psychologytoday.com: Why What I Admire In You Also Says Something About Me. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/putting-psyche-back-psychotherapy/201708/why-what-i-admire-in-you-also-says-something-about-me
ake a moment and think about someone you admire more than anyone else in your life: what is it about this man or woman that makes you look up to him or her? Courage? Intelligence? Modesty? Tenacity? Charisma? Love? Spirituality? Talent in a particular field? Really try to hone in on the one or two qualities of the person you admire.
Now hear this: those qualities are in you, seeking to come out, and that’s why you’re able to see them so clearly in another person. Just as with last month’s example with the person who felt great hostility but wouldn’t acknowledge it and so saw it in those outside, so too the positive qualities you’re not acknowledging within yourself are appearing in those around you.
If you’ve ever been a teacher, if you’ve ever led a group, if you’ve ever spoken to an audience, you have felt these projections. As soon as you step in front of the class/group/audience you are looked at differently. People begin to project onto you and you can feel it. This can have a lot of positive aspects: people are more open to someone they have a positive projection on. Your words take on more weight; your actions are invested with more significance; you have greater capacity to impact people. This is leadership in its positive light: you are able to influence people, ideally guide them in a way for their own good. Uniforms of all kinds inspire this kind of projection: a police officer’s uniform should inspire a projection of trust and security, a doctor or nurse’s white uniform with a medical id badge is a projection of medical know-how and competence; a priest or other clergy’s vestments a projection of spiritual authority and guidance.