Years before we met, my husband donated sperm

Ten years ago he donated sperm. Like the counsellor said – this is my reality now. My reality is that the questions have already started coming.

Those requests for information are a timer. How ironic. A biological clock. We thought we had at least eight more years to work out to handle this. Now it’s already happening.

I have to take it all in and try to remember all those things that I agreed to, somewhat under duress, years ago.

Eight years to work it out might seem like a while, I know. But maybe the thing to know from all of this is that there is another side to sperm donation and it’s not always as joyous as you’d expect. Like life, it’s messy and painful and confusing and very, very complex.