Aaron Gilmore was not even a teenager when he was sexually abused by a family friend he regarded as a second mother.
But when he reported it to police years later they told him they couldn’t see what crime had taken place.
He never reported that abuse or named the woman involved.
Both men carried a deep shame for years, worried that police and society wouldn’t believe that they had been abused by women.
Both men believe this is why males don’t report it.
Now a father of two and the owner of a dancing school in Auckland, Gilmore told news.com.au the grooming began at 11 after Hendrika Margaret Shaskey noticed he was a troubled kid craving attention.
She was jailed for five years for the sexual violation of Gilmore in 2003.
Initially, Shaskey was charged with cruelty to a child but this was upgraded to sexual violation.
In 2005 New Zealand law was changed to raise the maximum jail term to 10 years for any “sexual connection” with a person under 16.