– PsychCentral (@PsychCentral) June 2, 2016
The grass is always greener. I’ve been there, scrolling through newsfeeds on social media, talking to friends, seeing successful people all over the place. That’s when the feeling starts to creep in that I’m not good enough, that I’m not motivated enough, that I need to do better.
For every achievement that I’ve made, there is something else that I could and should have done. It seems like we focus on the people who appear to be doing better than we are, instead of focusing on ourselves or those who may be struggling the most.
I think, “If I could just do what that guy is doing, then I’d have enough money to buy a house, to live comfortably for the rest of my days and my worries would be over.”
There are several things wrong with that sentiment; first and foremost, our worries will never be over. In fact, it might be worth noting that once you get to a certain place your worries increase as you try to maintain the things you have. If you buy a house, you have to worry about maintenance. You’ve also got the potential problem of selling it in the future (although there is an easy way to do this – click here to learn more). If you get married or have a child, you have to worry about doing the best you can for your new family. If you get that new job you have to worry about doing it right and keeping up with its demands.