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Gaslighting: big and small

https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-gaslighting-3882129

Instead, research on gaslighting is usually about the behavior in the context of marital and other relationship infidelity. Furthermore, it is in the context of such relationships where gaslighting behavior is clearly linked to sexual risk in several ways.

The abusive partner may be engaging in unprotected sex in multiple relationships without informing their victim. This puts the abused partner at risk of sexually transmitted diseases and other consequences. It also denies their victim the autonomy and agency to make informed decisions about their sexuality. It makes it impossible for them to give informed consent, let alone enthusiastic consent.

It affects the victim’s competence and belief in their self worth. This, in turns, decreases their self-efficacy around negotiating behaviors such as condom use. It also makes it harder for them to negotiate in their own interests in other ways, because they may start to feel like they no longer have a strong grasp on reality.

It affects the victim’s ability to connect with others and get help from their support system. This may also make it harder to get appropriate healthcare. After all, if you don’t trust your own understanding of the world, you’re not as likely to bring up your concerns with your doctor. Particularly if your sexuality is at the foundation of how and why you’re being gaslighted.

https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/world/2016/02/10/north-korea-executions/80173970/

Executions order by Kim Jong Un

Why: Issued ‘false’ reports
Date: Feb. 26, 2017
Method: Anti-aircraft guns
Kim Jong Nam | Half-brother of Kim Jong Un

Why: Perceived as threat to Kim
Date: Feb. 13, 2017
Method: Assassinated with chemical nerve agent
2016

Ri Yong Jin | Education ministry official

Why: Showed disrespect to Kim
Date: August 2016
Method: Anti-aircraft gun
Hwang Min | Agricultural official

Why: Challenged Kim’s leadership
Date: August 2016
Method: Anti-aircraft gun
Kim Yong Jin | Vice premier of education

Why: Showed disrespect to Kim
Date: July 2016
Method: Firing squad
Gen. Ri Yong-Gil | Army chief of staff

Why: Corruption
Date: February 2016/Unconfirmed
Method: Firing squad
2015

Choe Yong-san | Vice premier

Why: Did not agree with Kim’s forestation policy
Date: May 2015
Method: Shot
Unnamed official | Manager of turtle farm

Why: During Kim’s visit to the farm, the official attempted to explain why turtles had died, including power failures and lack of water and food. The official was executed ” to set an example.”
Date: May 2015
Method: Shot
Hyon Yong-chol | Defense minister

Why: “Showed disloyalty to the leader”
Date: April 2015
Method: Anti-aircraft gun
Four unnamed musicians | North Korea’s Unhasu Orchestra

Why: Unknown; former colleagues of Kim’s wife, Ri So-ju
Date: March 2015
Method: Unknown
Gen. Pyon In Son| Head of army operations

Why: Corruption, failure to follow orders
Date: February 2015
Method: Firing squad
2014

O Sang-hon | Deputy minister, public security

Why: Corruption
Date: December 2014
Method: Tied to stake, burned alive with flame thrower
Sim Chol-ho | Telecommunications minister

Offense: Unknown
Date: October 2014/Unconfirmed
Method: Unknown
Chang Ung | Sports official, member of International Olympic Committee

Why: Corruption
Date: August 2014/Unconfirmed
Method: Unknown
Gen. Ri Pyong-Chol | Commander of air force

Why: Unknown
Date: August 2014/Unconfirmed
Method: Unknown
Ma Won-chun | Architect

Why: Unknown
Date: August 2014/Uncomfirmed
Method: Unknown
Kim Kyong-hui | Widow of Jang Song Thaek; Kim’s aunt

Why: Protesting husband’s death
Date: May 2014
Method: Poison
2013

Jang Song Thaek | Kim’s uncle by marriage

Why: Insurrection, other crimes
Date: December 2013
Method: Shot. An early report said he had been fed to a pack of dogs, but this has been proven false.
Jang Kye-sun | Sister of Jang Song Thaek

Why: Connection to Jang Song Thaek
Date: December 2013
Method: Poison
Jon Yong-jin | Husband of Jang Kye-sun; ambassador to Cuba

Why: Unknown
Date: December 2013
Method: Unknown
Jang Yong-chol | Brother of Jang Kye-sun; ambassador to Malaysia

Why: Connection to Jang Song Thaek
Date: December 2013
Method: Unknown
Unnamed nephew | Nephew of Jang Song Thaek

Why: Connection to Jang Song Thaek
Date: December 2013
Method: Unknown
Unnamed sons | Two sons of Jang Yong-chol

Why: Connection to Jang Song Thaek
Date: December 2013
Method: Unknown
Jang Su-gil | Deputy of Jang Song Thaek

Why: Unknown
Date of execution: 2013
Method: Anti-aircraft gun
Ri Ryong-ha | Deputy of Jang Song Thaek

Why: Unknown
Date of execution: 2013
Method: Anti-aircraft gun
2012

Ri Yong-Ho | Army chief

Why: Unknown
Date: July 2012
Method: Killed in gun battle as forces tried to arrest him
Kim Yong Chun | Deputy defense minister

Why: Unknown
Date: May 2012
Method: Mortar round
Kim Jong Gak | Armed forces minister

Why: Unknown
Date: May 2012
Method: Unknown
Kim Chol | Vice minister of army

Why: “Disrespecting” Kim
Date: April 2012
Method: Mortar round